-- Deborah L.V. Campo Wednesday March 21, 2007.
We think we know love until we try it out for ourselves.
Take the typical current society trends of man and woman.
We have single couples, married couples, single men and women having affairs with married individuals, married individuals having affairs outside of their marriages...
Throw in bisexuality or homosexuality just to create the off balance. We have no real change from ancient civilization.
Man and woman act out in lust.
This is their union of expressive love.
Man’s society today is fast paced, me-oriented, and money powered.
The only real difference between yesterday's and today's women, is that yesterday's women suffered from repressions and suppressions around sexuality; whereas today's women are considerably freer in this regard -- but still battling with issues of sexual morals and ethics. And yesterday's women were not angels.
Indeed, one could argue that men have had the growing challenge of keeping up with the growing evolution and 'un-suppression' of women's sexuality over the centuries.
Chastity, the virtue of being chaste for him. The holiness of matrimony and trust in marriage vs. the consequences of adultery. The consequences of adultery have generally been much harder on women over the years than men. Did King David not take Bethseba for his own lust and desires? Did King Henry the eighth not behead his wives and challenge the church on divorce as a means to continue having many affairs?.
Did the locksmiths that held the key for the 3rd crusade husbands chasity belts ever pick the lock to induldge in their own pleasures? Were the women completely faithful waiting in anticipation for their beloved to return. Did the WWI and WWII men serving stay also true to their partners? Or visa versa with the women back home?
All this time the woman could in fact love a man, maybe the wrong one, but she could love him and give of her body to his pleasure (and visa versa).
The consequences of her trysts were to be condemned from such a behavior punishable in some cases by death as in early Christian times of stoning; beheading in the Elizabethans era; or marked by wearing the letter A, ostracized and abandoned in the Victorian era.
Were the men condemned too? No, of course not. This was a man's world.
Is it any secret today that the behavioral patterns remains similar? Divorce rates are higher. Adulterous affairs continue.
Are we any happier? Am I happier? Can I love? Or do I just manipulate my idea of love to suit my own sexuality?
Do I compromise my morality of traditional views of marriage when our own federal government changed them?
Can I get away with my own lust and desires as long as I’m not hurting anyone?
And what if there is the risk of hurting one or more third parties?
The strong impulses of sexualiy and love vs. the ethics and morals of sexuality and love.
This remains an age-old problem, with the ongoing stability of marriages, relationships, and families at stake.
Families folding faster than bad businesses.
And yet the sexuality and love of men and women keep reaching outside of the family unit.
How do we deal with this age-old problem, when the emotional and physical stability of not only the family, but the nation as a whole, is at stake?
Indeed, the well-being of all of the individual, the marriage, the family, and the nation are at stake.
These are my questions. I leave you to ponder them too.
-- Deborah L.V. Campo Wednesday March 21, 2007.
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